What can today’s leaders learn from a Roman emperor and stoic philosopher who lived more than two millennia ago? Meditations, the personal journal of Marcus Aurelius, reveals his reflections on coping with life’s challenges and opportunities. A growing list of contemporary icons, from presidents like Bill Clinton to actors and athletes like Elizabeth Holmes and Tom Brady, have been influenced by Meditations’ insights. Here are five lessons from Aurelius on how to lead with grace:
- Respect and care for others. Aurelius believed we are all connected and should treat each other with kindness and dignity. He reminded himself to see the humanity in everyone, even those who harmed him or acted harshly, writing “that we came into the world for the sake of one another.”
- Be humble and curious. Aurelius did not let his position or authority make him proud or stubborn. He was always willing to learn from others and to admit his mistakes. He avoided seeking praise or flattering others for his benefit. He wrote, “If anyone can refute me, show me I’m making a mistake, or looking at things from the wrong perspective — I’ll gladly change course.”
- Control your emotions. Aurelius cultivated self-discipline and self-awareness. He aimed to prevent external events or situations from disturbing his inner peace, writing: “You have power over your mind – not outside events.” He tried to resist anger or resentment from influencing his decisions or actions. “The best way to avenge yourself is not to become like the wrongdoer.”
- Lead by example. Aurelius did not preach about what a good leader should be; instead, he showed it through actions and deeds. Aurelius endeavored not to use authority selfishly but for the common good. He wrote: “Don’t go on discussing what a good person should be. Just be one.”
- Enjoy the simple things. Aurelius did not chase fame and instead found joy in everyday life. “Very little is needed to make a happy life,” he wrote. “It is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” He admired the beauty of nature and the wonder of existence, writing: “Watch the night stars, and see yourself running with them.”
The stoic wisdom of Marcus Aurelius can help us to become more gracious and tolerant leaders in our time. Who do you think embodies the stoic ideals of Meditations?
